How to use EMOTIONS to grow?
By Sumaiyya Syed
Making others feel right about yourself is not your personal mission. But do you really implement this when you are in that exact situation? Probably no! So we should somehow make it easy to grow with these emotions positively.
We tend to be overly self-conscious, which means we either have a distorted view of the way people think of us or we are attached to a self-image that we want to protect.
You first have to change the interpretation of the way people perceive you. In order to care less what people think of you, you need to redefine your relationships with other people.
EXERCISE 1: REALIZING PEOPLE DON'T CARE
This exercise will help you understand at a very deep level that most people are not concerned about you.
Just choose one person. It might be your friend, an acquaintance or maybe a colleague. Now ask yourself how often you think about him in your daily routine. Now put yourself into his/her shoes. How much do you imagine how he or she thinks about you during an average day? How much does he or she keeps track of what you do or say? What do you think he or she is worrying about right now?
Simply, repeat this process with two more people.
As you do this exercise you'll come to the conclusion that other people don't think of you so much. They are just too busy with their own chores. They stay with themselves 24/7, so they are the most important person to them. They will always be busy worrying about their situation, their career, their family etc., And this is only to be expected.
EXERCISE 2: REALIZING YOU DO NOT CARE
You're not concerned about other people either if you want to figure this out, do this exercise. It will give you the answer.
Go through your day and try remembering every person you met, it might be the auto driver you came up to the next stop, or might be the waiter or the other customers in the restaurant where you lunched.
Ask yourself how much you thought about these people prior to this exercise. You probably did not think of them, did you?
As you can see, you don't really have time to worry about other people. Most of the time you are concerned about your life. It's not to say that you are not compassionate or are a selfish jerk! But you are merely being a human.
Lastly, to conclude, I would say that emotions are just a reflection of how you interpret a particular situation. Some other people might not get the same emotions in the same situation. So learn your emotions to grow positively and don't bother that 'Log kya sonchenge'.
Brilliant exercises! I will surely try. Keep up with the good work.
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ReplyDeletewere truly eye-opening. Your emphasis on redefining relationships to care less about what people think was particularly thought-provoking and empowering.
The way you delved into the concept of emotions as a reflection of personal interpretations of situations was enlightening, and your encouragement to learn to harness emotions for positive growth was truly inspiring. The exercises you provided are practical and I'm eager to try them out.
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